Wednesday, March 22, 2006

"Mania, the combination of eros and ludus, is another secondary love style. Manic lovers lack the self confidence associated with eros and the emotional self-control associated with ludus; rather, this obsessive, jealous love style is characterized by self defeating emotions, desperate attempts to force affection from the beloved, and the inability to trust in and to enjoy any mutuality of feeling the beloved does display. the manic lover is eagar, even anxious, to fall in love. He or she begins immediately to imagine a future with the partner, wants to see the partner daily, tries to force the partner to show love and commitment, distrusts the partner's sincerity, and is extremely possessive" (Lee, cited in Berscheid, 2005, p. 329).

Well said.

by tab at 11:02 PM |